12 STEPS TO UNSTOPPABLE
Overcome Your Fear of Rejection
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The Yes’s Built my business, the ‘No’s’ built my character. - Jimmy ’The Butcher’ Smith
I am sure that I am not alone when I say that I have had my fair share of rejections, from my friends at school, at dances or party’s, by prospective employers, by audience members, by investors and banks, and often I have perceived being rejected by those I deeply love. It took a while for me to realize that the only people that have never dealt with rejection simply have no contact with other people.
In my travels around the world I had to knock on thousands of doors and have heard the word ‘No’ in dozens of languages and on most continents.
I would like to share a few strategies and observations that hopefully will allow you to explode your business and your social life by getting rejected daily and loving it.
- Ask Why:
Begin by asking why. Why is overcoming my Fear of rejection important to me. How will overcoming my fear of rejection benefit me, the people I love and my potential prospects?
Quote: The strongest principle of growth lies in human choice. - George Elliot - Ask What if:
What will be the outcome in your life once you get comfortable asking for what you want, regardless of the outcome? Take a moment and picture how your life will be once you get comfortable with rejection.
Quote: Do not take ‘No’ as a rejection rather as permission to shut up and move on. - David Wood - What will happen if ‘you’ never ask?
Getting comfortable with rejection becomes easier with practice, however when you stop asking because of fear, you will end up with the scraps that life hands you and not the bounty of what is truly possible.
Quote: Many people dream of great success, while only a few actually stir from their beds and realize those dreams. - David Wood - Flexing ‘Your’ Rejection Muscle:
To truly grow the ‘I no longer fear rejection’ muscle it must be used often
Stay in the game
It’s important to learn from each rejection so that you can refine your skills and your approach the next time and more importantly make deeper connections. - You are your own Mirror:
When approaching someone new, if you are fearful, self conscious, intimidated, ‘In your head’ or unsure you will project those same feelings into the person you are approaching and little to no connection is made. They feel as uneasy as you do.
Tip: The more you practice and collect rejections the sooner you will ‘consistently’ get your desired result. - Tell ‘Your’ Truth:
Always let your prospect know if you are feeling nervous, self conscious or unsure as they will sense it anyway and once you have told them the truth then it’s so much easier for both of you to relax. - Become ‘Your Own’ Cheerleader:
Take off your critic’s hat and become your own cheerleader. You are going to have to put some sweat in the game, when you get rejected celebrate, give yourself a pat on the back and get back in the game. - Daily Action Win’s the Prize:
Its time to set a ‘Daily Rejection’ goal, however first answer this question; How Much success do you want, How Fast do you really want it? If you want to become incredibly successful quickly then choose 4-8 rejections a day. The very minimum is three rejections a day. ‘That’s right go out to collect No’s the yes’s will take care of themselves’
Tip: Keeping it FUN attracts the Yes’s - Whose thinking you’re Thoughts:
If you could trust your own thoughts you would already have everything you want, so every time your mind talks you out of a possible encounter ‘Challenge it’ and do it anyway. Feel the Fear, Feel the Doubt, Feel the Uncertainty and then take Action.
Tip: It’s not your thoughts that stop you its how you feel about them. Acknowledge your feelings then change them - Practice, Drill and Rehearse:
Every Master was once a Disaster; to become masterful it’s going to take practice. Great Warriors don’t go into battle having never used their weapons, get a Triad together and practice your approach. Practice often, and have fun doing it.
Tip: Practice does not count for your daily rejections so you will still need to get in front of real prospects. 3 Rejections a day minimum and you will become a master and have the life of your dreams - Perfectly Imperfect.
Don’t fall into the trap of shooting for perfection, firstly perfection is the stick we use to beat ourselves with, secondly most ‘mortals’ simply cannot relate to perfection.
Tip: Keep it real, be yourself, and have FUN, remember it’s a sorting process, find people who are looking for you. - Every End has a Beginning:
Well it’s time to take action; No one can do this for you. Take a breath, trust yourself, feel the fear and uncertainty and go and ask for what you want, if they say ‘NO’ celebrate that you have succeeded in getting a rejection, now go ask someone else.
Remember that the life of your dreams and the dreams of everyone you love comes down to you falling in love with the word ‘No” and overcoming the FEAR of rejection.
Tip: It’s never ever about you personally. Rejection is simply a ‘no’ or I don’t know? Its not the time, I don’t understand, I’ve been hurt before, I hate being sold or thousands of other possible reason that ‘Now’ is not the right time. Move on, Bless and Release.
Quote: I take rejection as someone blowing a bugle in my ear to wake me up and take action rather then retreat. - Sylvester Stallone
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